We get so caught up in putting things in these black and white categories. We classify things we’ve done as either a “failure” or “success”.
I’m not so sure life is that black and white.
I think there is a lot more gray area to life. It’s not always “this” or “that”. Success and failure are two of these things where I don’t quite see eye to eye as others.
There are so many times that I could look back through my life and say “Oh that was a huge failure!”, but I feel like that gets a bit too depressing tallying up all your failures vs. successes in life. Sometimes we get so caught up in trying to decide if it was a failure or not that we forget to see the good in that experience. Every time something doesn’t work out it’s an opportunity for something better. We learn and grow from the so called “failures” in our lives. Life is trial and error. We pick through what didn’t work, take what we can to help us be better in the future and leave the rest of that shit behind.
It’s not a failure until you stop trying!
We also tend to get caught up in other people’s perception of success and failure. We judge our own experiences based on other people’s opinions. How ridiculous is that?! We should be the ones who define our own successes and failures. We are the ones on the journey. We are the ones who decide what to move forward with and what to leave behind. Letting other people define your standards is just another thing that holds you back from being the best version of yourself.
We cannot be afraid of failure. If we are afraid to fail then we will never be able to take that first step to success. Failure is just fear and fear isn’t something that should hold you back. That kind of fear is not real… there are plenty of things to be fearful of like, I don’t know, a bear attack! But failure… no. That fear is a motivation, something to push you… change that fear into energy that propels you forward. Take every experience that doesn’t work as a challenge to do better, be better!
We have this one chance… one shot in life. There are no do overs, no reset, no pause! It’s imperative we use our time as best we can. And if you’re thinking that you’re too old, too young, too poor, too (insert any other excuse)… well you’re not! It’s never too late to reflect over the things you’ve previously classified as failures and see the lessons in them. Why get so bogged down with the “failures” in life? How much different would we feel about our lives if we changed our perspective? ‘
There is a freedom waiting for you,
On the breezes of the sky,
And you ask “What if I fall?”
Oh but my darling,
What if you fly?