Sitting in my bed, blanket pulled up, covering my mouth… A look of terror across my face as I slowly lower the blanket just enough to expose the quite, whispering words coming out of my mouth…
I see fake people.
Sometimes I feel like I have a sixth sense that gives me the ability to see fake people when others around me don’t. I don’t understand how people just cannot see what I see in other people. I feel like it’s blindingly obvious, but others are just oblivious to it.
I hate the fact that some people get judged for being real while some are getting loved for being fake.
We encounter fake people every day. There are different types and levels of fakeness. Sometimes it’s not right at first we pick up on people’s fakery. Some of them are really good, but eventually if we’re paying attention, their facade slowly starts to become transparent and we start to see through it. How do we deal with fake people and the ones who just can’t see it?
The answer is simple and easy. You just walk up to them, lean in reeeeal close and whisper in their ear,
I’m on to you you fake son of a bitch
I’m on to you you fake bitch
Well, that’s what we wish we could do. Maybe even a backhand… but sadly we cannot. And sadly the answer is not so simple and easy. There are different types of fake people, sometimes they combine and make different cocktails of fakery. I’m not an expert in the field of fakery and I really wish I had a good answer, but the only thing I can talk about is how I’m attempting do deal with it.
But let’s make a little list of traits of fake people:
I’m sure there are a ton of other fake qualities that we can go on and on about, but here are a few of the main ones I could think of off the top of my head. We can all see this list and pin one or multiple traits to people in our lives. I’ll talk about some of the ones that are in my current life and then I’ll get to how I’m dealing with it.
The Sweetie Sweet Manipulator
I’m so sweet, helpful and loving, but I have ulterior motives and am also Satan’s Mistress. I will act like I’m helping, but I will manipulate you. I’ll say the most horrible things a person can say to another and then pretend like I was just doing it out of love… or altogether act like I could never do something like that. If I do admit it, I will apologize for you getting mad at me for me just doing something out of love and kindness.
This one I have kicked out of my life completely. They still try to creep in every once in a while. It doesn’t help that another person in my life keeps giving them my information. When they do try to text or send me a letter I usually delete it or throw it away immediately without looking at the contents.
If I cut you off, chances are, you handed me the scissors.
The Manipulative, Compulsive Liar Instigator
I like to manipulate the people around me that can’t see through fake facades. I instgate and manipulate these people to be the one on top. I can’t help but lie so that I look good and know everything about everything. I tend to exaggerate my success and character to be better than others. I see an opportunity to play my award winning role of Perfect, Successful Christian and to those who can’t tell a difference, I’ve got the oscar in the bag.
This one is currently in my life. They have used their fakery to put a wedge between myself and certain others. What is frustrating is when other people are just so blinded to the facade they can’t see all the red flags. The attitude of I’m so educated, successful and more attractive than everyone else that everyone else is just so jealous of me is just so cringe-worthy to me. This person has even tried to use their fakery against me on my own husband (yeah, good try on that one… giving a sarcastic thumbs up). We see through your fake facade. This one I have distanced myself from. I try to avoid any one on one contact or situations where I’m with them and the others they have fooled.
It’s funny how you’re nice to my face. It’s hilarious how you talk shit behind my back. And it’s downright comical that you think I’m unaware.
The Passive Aggressive, Sweetie Sweet Hypocrate
I like to hide my passive aggressiveness behind jokes and a sweet facade. I like to give my unsolicited opinion on everything, but never really practice what I preach. I will always point out other people’s faults or bad habits, but never look at myself for doing the same things. I act like I am very sweet, but I’m really just bitter and judgmental. I am also one of the Energy Vampires in a previous post. I also work closely and have been fooled by The Manipulative, Compulsive Liar Instigator.
This one is also currently in my life. This one has been hard and as an Energy Vampire, also exhausting. This one over the years has become a lot more passive aggressive towards me. Being a fake person and also a negative person has been a tough one to deal with. Also being manipulated by other fake people and collaborating with other instigators against me has made me severely reevaluate their value in my life. I have tried to sit down and have an open, honest conversation with this one, but seeing how they’re not willing to admit any wrong doing or take any steps to actually work on things… All I can do is distance myself from them.
Your passive aggressive behavior confirmed my suspicions that you are an insecure, toxic individual who must be avoided.
There are situations that confronting a fake person is the right thing to do. Other times it is very hard to confront a fake person, especially when they are surrounded by people who have bought into their fakery. Trying to convince the believers of the fakery cult is like trying to convince people of the 1700’s that tomatoes aren’t really poisonous. Even though you have the evidence that proves otherwise. I’ve just come to the conclusion that I can only save myself from these snakes in the grass and if others aren’t willing to look, then they’ll have to get bit to learn their lesson. Even though I would love to slap some of these fake people across their fake face… putting some distance between us and seeing them for who they really are is the best I can do for myself. Letting go of the people who are caught in the web of these fake people is hard, but if they’re willing to believe and pick the fake over me, then what good are they in my life?
I’d rather eat crumbs with bums… than eat steaks with snakes…