What a selfish thought! What an entitled, selfish thought for someone to have! People shouldn’t think “it’s all about them”.
It’s all about me!
When we hear that, we instantly get caught up in the “how dare you” and “how selfish”. I wrote a little bit on A Healthy Kind of Selfish. Now let’s talk a little bit on the attitude of “It’s all about me”.
What we think about ourselves, our opinions of ourselves holds so much more weight than the opinions of others. They become our reality. So, we need to be careful and very mindful on what opinions we form of ourselves. It will make the difference between being ordinary, or less than ordinary or being extraordinary. If we don’t like the way we look, we’re unhappy with our bodies and we tell ourselves that every day… well, we’ll always have terrible bodies, even if we don’t. We will carry ourselves in a less confident manner, we will attract what we are putting out in the world. If we think we are less than others, we will be less than others. Our opinions of ourselves will either cage us or set us free.
So, yeah… It is all about me!
I think having a healthy sense of selfishness, self opinion, “it’s all about me” attitude is important. We need to focus on our thoughts, control what we believe we are. I guarantee we are all capable of so much more than we would ever imagine. We need to stop listening and believing other people’s opinions of us. We need to stop listening and believing our own opinions when they are not helping us progress and achieve greatness. We need to achieve greatness to our own standards. We need to be able to look at ourselves, alone, nobody else around and ask ourselves, “Am I proud of myself?” If we can answer “yes” to that, then we are doing it right… if we answer “no”, then we need to ask ourselves “why?”
If you want to take the island, burn the fucking boat! -Tony Robbins
What is our biggest strength? Resourcefulness and adaptability… We all have had different experiences, we have different skill sets that make us unique. We have a powerful tool… our minds! If we can control our minds, then we can do anything. We need to change our perspective, we need to change the narrative playing over and over in our own minds and become the best version of ourselves. We need to build ourselves up and never give up, never stop trying to better ourselves. If we want something then we are the only ones who can make it happen.
Man’s mind is his basic means of survival. Man is entitled to his own happiness and must achieve it himself, but he cannot demand that others give up their lives to make him happy nor should he wish to sacrifice himself for the happiness of others. I hold that man should have self-esteem. -Ayn Rand
We are entitled to our own happiness, we are entitled to achieve the success and greatness we see for ourselves, but we have to put in the work ourselves to obtain it. It doesn’t matter where we’ve started out in life, where we are now, we have the power to adapt, to be resourceful and put the work towards our own goals.
So, it all comes back to these four words it’s all about me. It’s all about me in the sense that my world, my thoughts, my opinions about myself are all about me. I am the only one who can make myself better, greater and achieve the success that I can feel proud of.
We need to look objectively at ourselves and ask, “It is all about me?”