We can all look around the room of the people in our lives and spot the Gimme Gimme person.
And if we don’t have that person… uh oh! Maybe notice who everyone else is looking at.
Alright, this doesn’t need a ton of explaining. We all know these people. They always have their hand out, asking for something, or just expecting it. I have to hand it to some of them though… they’re good… they don’t even really have to ask for it and they’ll get it. Maybe it’s their superpower!
I’m going to give you the same amount of effort as you give me.
We’re all guilty of giving in to them.
I’ve had friends and family who were like this, some of them had to be high up in the Gimme Gimme Society, elite members. One friend I had was bad about that. Always helped when I could, went out of my way, always there as a shoulder, but never really got the same kind of effort. Any relationship will never be completely 50/50. It’s more of a seesaw… it’s the best analogy I had off the top of my head. I did realize that this friendship was very heavy on one side, but I still did my best to be there… until one day I got sick and couldn’t make an event they were having. I got a not so nice text, implying I was faking being sick and I was a bad friend. Well… ha! Nope… that’s a big nope right there. That friendship ended that day.
Part of the problem with these Gimme Gimmies is that they do a good job at making us feel bad as hell for not sacrificing ourselves constantly for them. They can give us a very hollow sense of feeling appreciated that sometimes we don’t realize till later. It’s like they gave us a nice, beautiful red, shiny apple and its not till later we’re like, “Hey, this shit’s plastic!” A lot of these people also moonlight as Energy Vampires!
What do we do with these people?!
Well, I feel the simplest solution is get them the hell out of our lives! Cut them out if we can. No reason to keep someone around that doesn’t have any value in our lives. If there’s a reason we can’t cut a Gimme Gimme out, there’s a lot of situations where we can’t cut them out… we need to put some distance there. We cannot bring happiness, value, or whatever else people need in their lives. That is their responsibility, not ours! If we stop and think about it, it doesn’t matter how much we do, they’ll never be satisfied with any of it. It’s all hollow. Let’s focus our attention on ourselves and the people who have value.
Don’t make time for people who don’t make time for you.
If there is a Gimme Gimme reading this and realizes, Oh no… I’m a Gimme Gimme. Well then, stop! Start putting into the relationships you have. Stop expecting others to bring something into your life. You are the source of your own happiness. Be a person of value!