We’ve all been stressed out to the point where our brains don’t function as well as they should. We stop doing those little 5 minute tasks that would make our lives even slightly easier. The brain is either completely consumed with the things that are stressing it out or just in herp derp mode… blank. It’s like we almost go out of our way to make things harder when we’re stressed out.
This is The Peanut M&M Wrapper Incident!
We were on a 2 hour trip to go to Home Depot to get a few things for the house renovation. I decided that I would drive this day… which we ended up switching after we got to Home Depot because I suffer from extreme road irritaion, but that’s another story and nothing to do with my point! Since I was driving and my purse was in the back, I asked my husband if he could grab my chapstick. He grabbed my purse and asked me what color my chapstick was… it was yellow. As he’s digging through, what’s more of a trash and regret bag with all the receipts and trash crammed in it, I tell him, “Don’t get too excited. There’s a piece of Peanut M&M Wrapper still in there.” I have been fooled many times by that piece of wrapper thinking it was my chapstick. He asked me why I don’t just clean out my purse so I don’t keep running into that wrapper? I used to be really good at setting aside a couple minutes a month just to clean out all the regret receipts or trash that had collected in my purse over the month, but lately… well a lot longer than lately… I’ve been TERRIBLE. I thought about it for a minute. He said, “I think it’s because you’re stressed out and even the little things are difficult to take time to do.”
That’s it! Stress can be so overwhelming and mind numbing that we can’t even bring ourselves to do those little tasks that don’t take more than a few minutes. I can’t even bring myself to clean out my purse. Along with about a billion other things I should probably do but I don’t. Any down time I do get I apparently feel like I should be playing my app “Episode”, which I am completely addicted to, or scrolling through Instagram, or youtube, or anything else that’s completely unproductive. I guess my brain is like, “Listen… you’ve got to numb out for a bit, otherwise you’re going to have a stroke or something.”
How do we overcome stress and how do we deal with it to be better?
Honestly, no clue. I have probably a couple good, dramatic melt downs a month. The majority of the time I walk around not knowing why I got up to begin with. I put things in the fridge that shouldn’t go in there… and seriously.. some of the things that come out of my mouth… I think, “I’m having the slowest stroke in the history of strokes.” I do realize that I need to take a bit more time to try to breathe, do things that have no purpose other than to feel better. I am working on letting go the things that don’t serve me, things in the past, things happening right now, people who are negative, things said to me, etc. I’ll go for a walk down the road and listen to some music and just be there… in the moment, in the middle of nowhere and imagine that every thing of stress is blowing away from me like a dandelion (Alight, that sounded pretty poetic. I’m happy with that one).
I don’t think there is a “one size fits all” remedy to stress. I think we all need to find what works for us. I also don’t believe that we’re supposed to just handle stress like a pro. Sometimes life gets overwhelming and we feel like we’ve got a hole in our boat with no bucket to scoop out the water. I think the important thing is to recongnize it. Once we recognize and acknowledge these feelings, we can start to work through it. We can find out what works for us to get through the stressful times and get ready for the next.
Okay, I am going to stop writing and go clean out my purse!!!