When aren’t we being bombarded with tales of woe?
Everyone is a victim of circumstances. Being a victim is a virtue, it’s honorable… it’s… fashionable.
Too Poor?… Victim
Too Middle class?… Victim
Too Wealthy?… Victim
Now, I’m not saying there aren’t real victims or delegitimizing the circumstances and events people have gone through. These people actually do deserve empathy and support.
These are not the people I’m talking about.
But seriously… anyone can claim to be a victim. From the people who are legitimately victims, to poor, to the wealthy or even some minor offense (intentional or not). Anyone can spin their story to fit a victim narrative.
Let’s ask ourselves though… Do we really want to be a victim?
I don’t understand why someone would want to become a self inflicted victim. As someone who was abused from early childhood until the age of 20… I don’t see why anyone would want to take on the role of a victim. I don’t take pride in saying I was a victim. Honestly, I hate even saying it at all. I hate pity. Ironically, those who deserve pity don’t want it and those who don’t deserve it expect it.
Glorifying a victim attitude is extremely harmful. It causes emotional, physical and social damage. Turning the victim attitude into a virtuous characteristic causes some true victims to continue to stay victims or delegitimizes true victims and causes normal people to spin their stories to create a victim status. We start looking for anything to make us the victim. We start craving pity. Feeling entitled to things we haven’t earned and don’t deserve. Society begins to see value, virtue, productivity and ambition as dishonorable.
This Victim Culture creates a society that can’t let anything go. The saying “Pick your battles”, has been completely lost. Everything is a battle. This victim attitude is creating people who are so weak minded, thin skinned, overly sensitive and constantly on the defensive. Turning everyone into a victim creates this culture that demonizes any individual who doesn’t adhere to the collective group. We start looking at people who have worked to earn what they have as evil, privileged people, who don’t deserve to be where they are and should give all they’ve worked for to those who haven’t done anything to earn a damn thing.
Victim Culture kind of reminds me of little kids who have to run to their parents and tattle when someone doesn’t like them and expects their parents to do something about it. When we run across someone who doesn’t like us, has different opinions, or even says something rude…. who the fuck cares?! Move on! We don’t have to take every little thing personal. Everyone gets offended, yes… but get over. Not everything is worth fighting over. Where will we find the energy to fight for the things that actually matter if we’re always going to war over the color of a starbucks cup? Seriously, it’s stupid.
We are all entitled to our own happiness. But saying that… it is up to us, as individuals, to achieve that. We cannot demand others sacrifice themselves to us and we cannot sacrifice ourselves for them. It’s a long running theme in my blog… the most important currency in humanity is value. Value isn’t obtained without merit. Value is earned with productivity and virtue. Every single person has the ability to obtain value, but it is up to the individual.
A quick note to Victims…
To the True Victim:
Your circumstances don’t define you. You are a person of value. Your wounds will heal. You will carry your scars with you, but choose to see them as battle scars from the war you won.
To the Self-Made Victim:
Pull your head our of your ass. Playing the role of a victim isn’t virtuous. Panhandling for pitty from being a self-inflicted victim is disgusting. Step up and realize the only virtuous thing is being a person of value, a person who actually produces something.