It’s one of the most frequently asked questions,
Are you happy?
Am I happy?
We all seek to achieve happiness in life. But where does happiness come from? What does happiness look like? What does happiness feel like? How do we gauge happiness?
Sometimes we try to measure our own happiness against others. We look to others to bring us happiness. We buy new things to make us happy. We try to live our lives to make others happy, thinking that will bring us happiness. These are a few things that complicate achieving happiness.
No one’s happiness but my own is in my power to achieve or to destroy. -Ayn Rand
We definitely live in a society that bases happiness on external or altruistic forms of happiness. We also live in a world where we’re bombarded by everyone else’s day to day lives by social media. There are all these “examples” of people living happy lives and doing exciting things. But are they really happy? Are they really achieving happiness? Are we?
The only way that we’ll be able to achieve happiness is to start taking responsibility of our own happiness. There is no point to measuring our own happiness to the lives of others. Looking to other people for our happiness will never bring us happiness, it will only lead to disappointment. We need to stop living our lives for the sole purpose of making others happy, because let’s be honest, they’ll never be truly happy. We are entitled to our own happiness and we should work towards achieving that ourselves and not to expect anyone to give it to us.
I am no expert on what will bring happiness to others. All I know is what I can do to achieve my own happiness. If I’m not working towards something, I’m miserable. I’ve stopped listening to the opinions of others and their unsolicited advice on how I should live my life. I’ve stopped worrying about sacrificing my life for everyone else around me. Living my life, how I see my world and what I envision for my future… that’s what I focus on. Only allowing people of value into my world, the people who don’t actively stamp out creativity and suck energy away from my soul. These are things that make me happy. I still enjoy doing exciting things, going to new places, buying things, but I don’t base my happiness on those things. Changing my perspective on the world around me, my past, my present and the challenges I face have made a huge difference.
Achievement of your happiness is the only moral purpose of your life, and that happiness, not pain or mindless self-indulgence, is the proof of your moral integrity, since it is the proof and the result of your loyalty to the achievement of your values. -Ayn Rand